well, where do I start......My life seemed great, wife and I got along fantastic, (so I thought), we laughed, talked all the time, loved our kids and were financially OK. All of a sudden, things seemed to be going different, for a few months, it seemed we were growing distant. I did not notice this unfortunately at the time, but am realizing this now. It went on like this for a few months actually. She tells me one day, that she wants to go to a place out of state for the weekend to clear her thoughts and get herself adjusted for work. I thought it was strange, as she has never done something like this before, but accepted it because she was somewhat new to her job, and it was very stressful. Soon after her return from her weekend trip, she states out of the BLUE, I do not want to be with you anymore, and I want a divorce and to move out. Tried also convincing me of selling the house. I was to say the least, IN SHOCK. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I asked her why, but she couldn't give me a direct answer, it was always, I love you, but I am not IN love with you. This made no sense to me whatsoever, especially that everything seemed to be going to fine before hand. I went WEEKS trying to salvage this marriage with her, opening my soul to her, sending her cards, flowers, hell, I think I cried more than I did when I was 7 years old. Whatever i did, she just seemed very cold hearted, and determined to move forward with everything. She wanted to sell the house immediately, split the proceeds and move into separate places. I couldn't believe this, we have two kids, 9 and 7 and I was in shock that she would even suggest this. For me, the kids are more important than anything. My response was, No Way, I am not selling, nor am I leaving the house. The kids wouldn't be able to relate, nor would I want to put them thru something like that. She finally conceded and she was just going to move out herself. after 3 weeks or so, trying to figure out what the heck is going on, I start to think something else is happening. So I check her cell and find a text too some guy stating, I love you, I love hearing your voice. Well, I get my answer and figure she is having an affair with someone else. Gawd, my heart drops to my feet. Cannot believe she would have done something like this. She is typically the person that takes the high road, vs. not. Moving forward......knowing what I know, i play along and try too establish what is wrong, what was missing from the marriage that may have caused her to move on to someone else. Reasons, you know? What did I do wrong? I have never done anything to her that would be a reason to justify what she did. There was nothing that I could think of.........Bottom line is, she says she got bored......Once I found this, I tried various things to make it better, one day she would be wanting too rectify, then the next day, she would be back on her game again. She is pulling 180's on me daily....Got an Advil?? So, I do some digging and come too find out (Via emails) she is actively involved with another counterpart at work, and is In Love with this guy. I am in SHOCK at this point. Many, many, many emails with descriptive context expressing her feelings for this guy, and what they have done. Amazing, adultry, and tied herself in emotionally. It makes me sick, but, getting emotionally involved with someone as a married woman is more painfull than the act itself. After stewing on this, I finally confront her on this. She denys at first, but the evidence is too strong to do anyting else. She, without directly admitting it, admits the sin. I about puke and mush out on her. To make a long story short, and end this long rambling post....... I have in my opinion tried everything possible to salvage this marriage. I keep trying because she has a history of depression and is taking effexor, so I am desperately hoping that this is a reason she is doing this, as bad as that may sound, only problem to me is that she sounds clear headed, . However, she keeps flipping on me.....one day she wants to work it out, next day she is back on teh divorce kick. At this point, I have about given up on trying anymore, she agree's I should be the primary care giver, and will let me maintain the house with kids, equal share of visitation, and me with final decision to welfare of children.. She is going to move out this weekend and not take anything other than her personal belongings, ignoring me, her kids, and her direct family, and will not even do any counseling....Basically, it looks like she is giving up everything for this guy, at whatever cost....It makes me sick to think about it, and I am so worrried about her well being, but feel like there is nothing I can do to help her anymore......... Uggg,,,, Do I let her go?? I honestly do not know what to do anymore and am so afraid that she is going to not get what she thinks she is going to get and then finally go off the deep end, and